{"id":1233,"date":"2011-12-09T01:14:02","date_gmt":"2011-12-09T06:14:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/teachingchildrenaboutmoney.com\/blog\/?p=1233"},"modified":"2017-04-10T13:09:17","modified_gmt":"2017-04-10T17:09:17","slug":"3-steps-for-improving-your-communcation-to-your-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.teachingchildrenaboutmoney.com\/blog\/1233\/3-steps-for-improving-your-communcation-to-your-child\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Steps for Improving Your Communcation to Your Child"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nAny time that you communicate to your child<\/strong> you can convey the message in a positive or a negative way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Guess which way is more likely to gain your child\u2019s cooperation, bring them closer to you and increase their self-esteem?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The positive way, of course.<\/strong> Yet, too often parents draw attention to negative behaviors while positive steps go unnoticed.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s look at three changes you can make.<\/p>\n

1. Use positive communication.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of the negative:<\/em> \u201cHaven\u2019t you gotten your toys picked up yet? I can\u2019t believe that you\u2019re so slow! I asked you 10 minutes ago to clean up!\u201d<\/p>\n

Communicate the positive:<\/em> \u201cI see that you got the Legos cleaned up. Good job! I\u2019ll set the timer for 5 minutes and let\u2019s see if you can get the rest of the toys cleaned up!\u201d<\/p>\n

2. Use rewards rather than punishments.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of the negative:<\/em> \u201cNo books tonight! I had to keep bugging you to get ready for bed.\u201d<\/p>\n

Communicate the positive:<\/em> \u201cIf you brush your teeth and put PJs on without me asking tonight, you\u2019ll get an extra book.\u201d<\/p>\n

3. Give positive attention for positive actions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of the negative:<\/em> \u201cIf you can\u2019t share, I\u2019m taking this toy away.\u201d<\/p>\n

Communicate the positive:<\/em> \u201cYou\u2019re doing an awesome job sharing with your brother right now! High five!\u201d<\/p>\n

The motto we should incorporate into our parenting is this: \u201cCatch them being good!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m going to challenge you in the next year to find three times a day<\/strong> when you can acknowledge a positive behavior<\/strong> of your child\u2019s, rather than a negative one. That would be 1,000 more positive statements your child would here each year.<\/p>\n

Imagine the impact!<\/em><\/p>\n

Cheers…Amanda van der Gulik…Excited Life Enthusiast! ;o)<\/p>\n

P.S.<\/strong> Remember our words are “Magic”. How we speak to our children will determine how they react to their world. One of the most important skills to show our children if we want them to grow up with positive money smarts, is to first give them a positive “word” foundation.<\/p>\n

P. S.\u00a0Did you find this article helpful?<\/strong> If so, then please help me empower more kids, teens and their families by leaving me your own comments below and clicking the ‘like’ button and ‘sharing’ it with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. Thank-you for helping me empower more Healthy Wealth Mentality kiddos. We need them! \ud83d\ude00<\/p>\n

“Together we can raise kids and teens who are money savvy and get to\u00a0follow their dreams because they know how to handle and value their money…and not come back crawling home to mom and dad to get them out of financial trouble!”<\/em><\/p>\n

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